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Taking Stock and Going Forward

2015 (1)Happy New Year, my lovely Lunatics! I truly hope you have had a wonderful holiday season. Tomorrow I begin taking down all of the decorations before the 6th gets here. Today, though, is for looking back at what’s been accomplished, and looking forward to being ever closer to reaching my dreams.

Last year my post for today was Make It Count. I tried to make every opportunity count towards reaching my goals this past year. I missed some and I procrastinated on some. But, I’m closer today than I was this same time last year. One of my goals was to have my first poetry collection published within the year. I was told that was unrealistic. Actually, it wasn’t. But I’m glad I took time with it because I’ve learned rather a lot thanks to my writing group and new friends I’ve made this year. I also added quite a bit to my repertoire which in turn increased my choices to add to my first collection. I also have a date in 2015 set (not in stone, thank goodness) for publishing it. I may have to extend that date but only by a few weeks, a month at the latest. I’m not worried about it. It means I’m doing my best to make it it’s best, if that makes sense. I’m very excited about it!

2014 also brought new friends. I used to consider myself a ‘loner’. I am used to being by myself. I have no problem keeping myself entertained, and I like my own company most of the time. But I am not a solitary creature (imagine that) and I need friends and people to interact with for more than a phone call. Last year at this same time I could count my friends on one hand. Today that number has tripled. I have friends I talk to on almost a daily basis (cough-Amber-cough) and others I get to make plans to go do things with (CJ, Linda, Trinia, Pris, & Denise-before she moved away). Then there are the online friendships I developed: Ron, Lizzi, Cindy, Dawn, Fida, and many more (I’m sorry I can’t name you all but I love you just the same!). When you spend years pretty much interacting with only the people you live with, you appreciate the gift of friendship. As much as I love my kids and my family, there’s nothing quite like being around your ‘people’-those who ‘get’ you without having to explain. And I am deeply grateful for these friendships, and I thank my lucky stars every day for them. They saved me. And, of course, Michelle, Laura, and Tracy…what would I do without you three? Shut up Michelle, I know what you just thought. πŸ˜‰

Other things I accomplished was losing weight, participating in not just my first 5k run but two more as well, even traveling to Chicago for them, participating in a poetry challenge, setting a date for my first publication, participating in my first NaNoWriMo, and beginning my first novel. I look at that list and see how short it is. At first glance it doesn’t look like very much. But when I think back to all the work I did for each one of those items (especially the 5k runs), I actually did quite a lot. Add on top of those all the ‘mom’ stuff (the running around picking kids up, the band stuff, etc) and the list gets longer. And it was hard, but I am so glad I did it all.

I don’t make resolutions because I think those are too hard to keep. Instead, I make goals. I am still keeping most of the ones I made last year but this year I have added to publish at least 3 items (poetry of course) and to get my book written and start the second. I have so many ideas and I want to get them written and out to you, and I almost can’t wait. I want to start all of them now. But I won’t. I am going to take my time and do things properly and make them their best. 2015 is going to be the year I reach at least one of my dreams, and that’s always a good motivator. Also, something that was recently decided (and I’m extremely excited about this) is that I am going to be a part of a group blog with other writers. The blog itself is still being set up and blogging times have yet to be decided. But I will let you know the moment plans are more concrete. The goal is to help others with what we know, as well as to showcase our talents and bring awareness to the craft. I will add a link when we go live and I hope you will follow the new blog as well. Good things are coming (not winter-it’s already here, Jon Snow).

My wish for you this year is that you take that first step to reaching your goals/dreams. It is not too late. If I can do it, so can you. It is not impossible. All you really have to do is make the decision to do it, then commit to it, no matter how hard it becomes. Go back and read some of my first posts for encouragement. Read what I have/am going through. I won’t lie. It will be hard and you will want to give up. But don’t. All that effort, all that hard work, is SOOO worth it. Today I have a smile on my face because of what I have done and what I have to look forward to. You can become the person you want to be, so go become that person. You have all my support, and love.

xo Jess

P.S. Look for my new daily poetry addition from It will be a separate post and have it’s own category: Poetry Daily. I want to share my love of poetry and this site has some fantastic contemporary poems written by some incredible poets. Please follow them if you enjoy.


Jesi Kay
Jesi Kay, poet and aspiring novelist, was born in the Texas panhandle where wide skies, lazy summer days, and rolling thunderstorms sparked her imagination and left lasting memories in her blood. An early reader, poetry and mythology were her passions. So much so that when she was ten years old her step-father gave her his college mythology textbooks to read, which were full of classic poetry and more than enough tales to fill her romantic and inquisitive nature. Jesi loves reading, art, going to the theater, the romanticism of the Victorian era (but not the missing conveniences of indoor plumbing and central air conditioning), running when the heat and humidity cooperate, and cold weather so she can wear her favorite boots and knitwear. Also, she still has those college mythology textbooks, a little worse for wear over time but still intact and telling their stories to her. Jesi is a contributor at The Well Tempered Bards blog and at

13 Replies to “Taking Stock and Going Forward

  1. I actually made your list? Wow! I’m honoured!
    I commend you on all you accomplished this year! OctPoWriMo was already hard for me but I did it!
    To run three 5ks? I’m impressed. Because I also know all it takes to run a household with young children, even if I only do it part time now (which comes with its own difficulties).

    Good luck for 2015. I love your wit and humour, I love how you write. I am looking forward to reading your published works.

    As for me, I have a few goals for 2015 already (no resolutions either, it’s just a recipe for failure and disappointment in myself when I cannot keep up with them). I have started on at least one. I’ll let you know how it goes. In the mean time, I appreciate your good wishes. If I don’t make it this year, there is always next year, but I am going to do my best to make it this year πŸ™‚

    I wish you all the best for a wonderful year 2015 πŸ™‚

    1. Of course you made my list! I love talking with you and hearing about your escapades (even if they do make me blush-I’m not exactly a prude but I can still blush on occasion).
      I don’t make resolutions for exactly the same reason. I am a very harsh critic of my own successes and failures, and the last thing I need is a list of failures every year. Goals are doable, and if you don’t succeed right away it’s ok becauses they are reachable as long as you work at it.
      And I’m glad you like my sense of humor. And I have wit, woohoo! LOL
      I wish you all the best, too, D. I know you work as hard as I do. We are quite a bit alike I think. πŸ˜‰
      All my love, and I’ll talk to you later.

      1. I make you blush? Well… maybe you won’t want to read my latest escapade πŸ˜‰
        Though I’m not sure I’ll get to the interesting bit in the first part, we’ll see, but I’m already at 1800 words, I don’t think I’ll make it in only one part πŸ˜‰
        Yes, it is very possible we are uite alike, though I’ve never seen anything about your escapades πŸ˜‰

        Keep making me smile and think. I love what you write πŸ™‚


        1. I’m American..we’re supposed to be prudes. πŸ˜‰
          Besides, my ‘escapades’ get written about in poetry…plus, I’m the quiet type-still waters run deep and all that jazz. LOL
          And Anne Rice’s Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy and DH Lawrence made me blush. Didn’t stop me from reading them. Or making others blush when I talk or write about it. πŸ˜€
          I’m really not all that prudish. Depends on the company I’m in. LOL

          1. Yes, I’ve seen how prude Americans are on dance floors. It makes a European dance floor look tame!

            Does it look bad if I say that I have no idea who Anne Rice or DH Lawrence are? I never studied English-speaking litterature. To be honest, I never studied litterature at all πŸ˜‰

            But I totally understand about behaving differently depending on the company one is in. You can be sure I don’t talk the same way to my parents and most of my real life friends that I write on my blog πŸ˜‰

            1. Hahaha! Yeah, let’s ignore the dance floor escapades. LOL.
              We all wear different masks around different people. And, um, I didn’t study those books. I read them. For fun. LOL. The Anne Rice ones are worth the blush. I think they’re better than 50 Shades of Grey (or is it gray-i always spell that with an e…the a just looks wrong).

              1. When you read about my dance floor escapades… they have nothing to envy American dance floors. Except maybe they were more conspicuous πŸ™‚
                It’s Grey I think. I enjoyed the books, so I’ll check Anne Rice. But I’m afraid to say that 50 shades never made me blush. I experienced other rather interesting reactions while reading them, but no blushing πŸ˜‰

                1. I only read the online sample…no blushing either. And Anne’s…well…I was in my 20’s then. I probably wouldn’t blush now either. LOL.

                  1. Ah, but I’m sure they didn’t pick the juiciest parts for the online samples!
                    50 shades are not the best written books ever, but they flow nicely and I enjoy thrillers, so I couldn’t not like them πŸ˜‰

                    1. LOL
                      Well, I’m about to find out. My friend Amber got the first book from her grandmother for Christmas (the woman had no idea what it was about-:-D ) and Amber is making me read it with her. I’m just rolling my eyes and going ‘fine”. πŸ˜‰

                    2. I’ll let you know what I think, But you have to check out the Claiming of Sleeping Beauty Trilogy. Considering when it was written it was definitely hot. πŸ˜‰

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