#BeReal,  Encouragement,  Life

Some Advice For The New Year



No, I haven’t disappeared or fallen into a black hole. I’m still here. Just taking a much needed break. I’ve had a lot of personal things going on in my life this month and I’ve needed to back away from things and take a breath or two. I’m hoping the new year will bring a little bit of calm that December decided I didn’t need.

One of the things that happened, recently, was an unexpected negative thing that could have been so much worse but wasn’t. My only current vehicle is my SUV. Β My Prius’s hybrid battery died in November and, as it’s out of warranty, it’s going to cost me $2k to replace and I don’t have that right now. So, my old reliable Yukon XL, my baby, has been pleased as punch to be getting to drive us all around again. This past Friday night we went to see Star Wars for a second time, and, after we left and I opened my side of the SUV, I saw pieces of my steering column sitting in my seat and my steering wheel naked and exposed, violated. We called the police and the movie theater gave us free tickets but nothing makes up for having to call a tow truck at midnight and knowing that since there were no video cameras pointed in the direction we had parked, the likelihood of finding the perpetrator is next to impossible. The good news is that there was nothing in the SUV of value so nothing was taken. It looks like they were trying to steal the vehicle itself but probably stopped when a movie let out and people started leaving the theater. We were parked about 50-75 feet from the box office so it isn’t as if our vehicle can’t be seen when we exit. We’ve been going to this theater since it opened years ago and there’s never been any issues of this sort that we know of. Thankfully, the theater itself is moving into a new building around the corner from where it’s at now and there is a much larger, much brighter lit parking lot with lots of video cameras everywhere. So far we’ll be out about $600. A locksmith is coming to replace a part on the ignition because the person who tried to steal the car jammed something into the ignition and broke pins on the inside so I can’t turn my key at all. Then we had to pay for towing because our insurance company was NOT open to calls and so we were unable to use the roadside assistance option we pay extra for. We’re going to have to have the lock on the driver’s door fixed because that was punched in with something. Β But no windows were busted and the car wasn’t stolen. It could have been so much worse.

But it wasn’t.

We still have our SUV and are only out less than a thousand dollars, and we had the money when we needed it. We were not in the tornadoes that hit just east of us Saturday night though we had friends (who are safe and sound) who were. The devastation from that is dreadful and will take a few years to recover from. Our bills are paid, we have food and clothing and a roof over our heads, and we’re all mostly healthy. (A few of us have colds but nothing major.) We have so very much to be thankful for going into the new year.

But there are a lot of people who don’t.

There are people who need things, both in your community and out of it. There are opportunities all around you to give a little of the blessings you have to someone who needs a blessing in their lives. All you have to do is look around you and really see the need.

Sometimes things happen, and it’s not because of karma or anything else. It just happens. Bad things happen to both good people and wayward people. That’s when it feels as if the weight of the world drops down on you and you think “why bother?” I could have easily have let the fact that my car was nearly stolen get me down, but I didn’t. And I can’t even tell you why it doesn’t bother me as much as it should. The thought keeps running through my head that it could have been worse. It could have been worse, but it wasn’t. This negative wasn’t as negative as it could have been and I see it more as a reminder that things happen but we CHOOSE how we deal with things. The incredible thing is I feel more positive instead of negative about it. Really, there’s nothing I can do about what happened. It was out of my control. But I can CHOOSE how I react, and I choose to react positively about it. There was a time when I wouldn’t have done that. My depression would have forced me to retreat further into myself and think I had done something to deserve it. But not now. I choose to see this differently. And maybe that makes all the difference.

We are days away from beginning a new year. You get to choose how you enter it. I’m a firm believer that we carry all the baggage from the old year with us into the new one. So why not let go of it and begin with a new attitude? Enter this next year with hope and CHOOSE to think positively no matter how hard it is. You CAN do it.

I believe in you.

Happy Holidays everyone.




Jesi Scott is an aspiring writer of novels, a poet, and blogger. She has guest-blogged over at The Well-Tempered Bards, and has a post featured at For Love Of…. Jesi has two poems published in Memories of Mist, a literary anthology, and one published story in a newsletter. She is currently working on releasing her first poetry collection as well as writing her first novel. When not writing, Jesi can be found getting lost in bookstores, singing and dancing around the house, experiencing culture with friends, and generally having fun with her four sons when they aren’t driving her weeping into her closet, which she calls her Padded Cell. She loves to rescue stray bookmarks, as well as books, and has opened her heart to any and all stories needing a home. Archery is her current favorite thing ever but you might want to stand back a little as she still has a tendency to drop the bow occasionally.


  • lrconsiderer

    I’m so sorry it happened but I’m so pleased that you’re not letting it get to you. I hope that your positive attitude stays with you all year and that you see positive changes to go alongside it πŸ˜€

    • Jesi

      Oh honey. I have been fighting a negativity battle for a long time. I need some positive thinking and this really helped do the trick. Not that I wanted it this way. But it helped. And it wasn’t quite a tragedy and I was fortunate in that my neighbors let us borrow their truck to go run errands yesterday. I am so very, very blessed and I know it.

  • donofalltrades

    As a cop, I’m always impressed when I see a victim taking the high road so to speak. It speaks volumes about you as a person to be able to let that sort of violation go and move on. Good for you. When it rains it pours, doesn’t it? Hope your new year finds your luck a little bit better car wise. Lol.

    • Jesi

      Thank you!
      I don’t quite like the idea of thinking of myself as a victim although I am very much aware that I was. I think it’s all a matter of how we handle things and that we can see ourselves as victims or we can choose to see ourselves as stronger than that. And I know I am strong. And the good news is that my SUV is fixed as of this afternoon and we were only without a vehicle for the weekend, and even then, my neighbors let us borrow their truck to go run errands yesterday. I am so very blessed, and very grateful to realize it.

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