It Takes a Big Man…

Jesi Kay

Jesi Kay, poet and aspiring novelist, was born in the Texas panhandle where wide skies, lazy summer days, and rolling thunderstorms sparked her imagination and left lasting memories in her blood. An early reader, poetry and mythology were her passions. So much so that when she was ten years old her step-father gave her his college mythology textbooks to read, which were full of classic poetry and more than enough tales to fill her romantic and inquisitive nature. Jesi loves reading, art, going to the theater, the romanticism of the Victorian era (but not the missing conveniences of indoor plumbing and central air conditioning), running when the heat and humidity cooperate, and cold weather so she can wear her favorite boots and knitwear. Also, she still has those college mythology textbooks, a little worse for wear over time but still intact and telling their stories to her. Jesi is a contributor at The Well Tempered Bards blog and at

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3 Responses

  1. Al Lane says:

    My two boys are younger, but I empathise with you… Having seen how this resolved in the end though, I would suspect that you *probably* need to give yourself more credit… Yes, there will always be annoying “super-parents” in our sphere, but if you can raise a child to apologise like that, and have the self-awareness as to why he’d pushed those buttons… that makes you much more than an “okay” parent, in my book. I think one defining characteristic of “good” parenting (assuming the kids basic needs are looked after!) is the simple fact of wanting to do better… appreciate this, rather than treating this as a sign of failure xxx

    • Jesi says:

      Thank you, Al. My problem is that I compare myself to higher standards as well and, as a divorced parent, I’m constantly under criticism from the other family and when Big Son was younger he’d bring what he’d heard while at his dad’s home to me. I know I fail at times, and were I to compare myself with some others I know of, I’m certainly a good mom. My kids have exactly what they need and then some. My own mom tells me I’m an awesome parent and much better than she was. Still, I’m no Disney sitcom mom. The one thing I know I’ve done right is that every single one of my kids know I love them. And everyone who meets my kids think I have the best kids. Therefore, I must be getting some parenting right. And, yes, I’m much harder on myself.

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